In May of 2014 it was reported by the conference board, a New York based nonprofit research group that 52.3% of Americans were unhappy at work. The survey asked the workers how they felt about their wages, promotion policy, sick leave, vacation policy, health and retirement plan. Now I don’t know about some of you guys but in 2014 I was among the 52.3% of Americans unhappy with their job; And I wasn’t just unhappy with vacation time or the promotion policy, I was unhappy all across the board. I dreaded Sundays because I knew that I had to go to work on Mondays. I burned through my vacation time as soon as I would get it, I didn’t like being told what to do, I didn’t like the frequent procedure changes, I hated having to ask permission, I hated having to deal with co-workers that I didn’t like; I didn’t like asking for permission to do anything. Working a 9-5 for me always sent me on a day to day emotional roller coaster; I had to mentally prepare myself before walking into the building. Until one day I said to myself “this can’t be life…”. Bottom line. Working a 9-5 was not for me. I had so many questions like, “So what do I do if I don’t work a job?” “How do I make a living?” “What will I do?” I come from a family of hard workers who dedicate decades to one job, and you’re expected to do the same thing, grit your teeth, suck it up, ignore your feelings and go to the same job you hate for 30 years. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t ignore it, my soul was screaming and it was trying to tell me something and I was going to find out. So I embarked on a journey to see exactly what it was my soul wanted me to do.
I am writing this for those who are not completely fulfilled with their current life, and not just with their jobs, it can be your relationship with others, living situation, whatever it may be; there is a way to find out if there are some changes you need to make. Now society will trick you into believing that you will never be fully happy, or fulfilled; or that you’re wrong for wanting to see if the grass is greener on the other side. Some of us are not taught how to listen to our inner self. When we were younger and we didn’t want to go to school, do our homework or brush our teeth, our parents would say “sometimes you have to do things that you don’t want to do, and when you get older you’re going to do a lot of things that you don’t want to do”. To some degree that may be true. But what has happened is that this statement has become a belief programmed in your head since a child that you apply to your adult life. It has taken on a new meaning, you have learned to grit your teeth and continuously do things that you don’t want to do. “I hate this job, but I got to pay the bills” “this relationship is not where I want it to be but I have invested too many years with this person” “I always wanted to be a dancer, but my parents said there’s no longevity in that so I went to college to be a lawyer”. If you were like me growing up and didn’t have the luxury of having a therapist for a parent or grew up in a free spirited way of thinking environment, then you probably weren’t brought up to pay attention to the connection between your emotions and circumstances AKA triggers. Certain circumstances invoke certain emotions. Some good, some bad, it is up to us to recognize them. This will enable you to make better decisions on your own behalf, because you will know what works for you and what doesn’t.
Now I want to give you guys a little, fun quick scenario to think about. What happens if you drive your car every day with the emergency brake on and don’t notice it? The breaks will eventually fail, the brakes will become overheated and damaged, you could warp a drum or disc, you could cause the linings or adhesive to fail, or the linings could crack. So when you are driving 50 miles per hour and it’s time to press on your breaks, they don’t work and you could crash. Now this could have been prevented if maybe you checked the dashboard indicators letting you know that the emergency brake was on, even knowing your car enough to know that its driving different, or check your rear view mirror to see that big trail of smoke behind your car. You see where I’m going? Your body is no different. It will let you know when something is not right. Having negative emotions, or responses are the first indicator telling you that something is not right. Now if you choose to ignore these indicators, it can manifest physical ailments; sickness, tumors or cancers. To avoid the worst case scenarios, begin by paying attention to what your soul is telling you.
What is a soul? It is the spiritual immaterial part of a human being or animal. It is the principal of life, feeling, thought, and actions in humans, regarded as a distinct entity separate from the body. It is the spiritual part of humans as distinct from the physical part. Your soul holds the answer to your purpose, which is the very reason why you’re here right? Your inner thoughts, feelings, and ideas is your soul’s way of guiding you to your purpose. If you have been living your life unfulfilled, unhappy, or with some sort of inner conflict; you are perhaps driving in the wrong direction of your purpose. It is okay to take a new course of direction, let your soul take the wheel it knows the way. You will know you are on the right path by the way it feels. It will feel good, free, joyful, peaceful. You will have the inner knowing that this is right. You may even feel some fear every now then and again, but that’s okay it’s just your ego that’s afraid of the unknown. Pray, meditate and ask for guidance. Ask that you become aware and sensitive of your inner self and what it is telling you. Don’t be afraid to leap now, your soul has been waiting too long for you to jump. There may be some bumps along the way but that’s a part of your soul story and it is a lesson behind it, and knowledge to be gained. Don’t get stuck and suffer in silence in a situation or circumstance forever when it was only meant to be small part of your story.
I love you all, I pray that you let your soul speak; and I pray that you listen.
-Soulful Sistahs Speak!
Author: Angel Aura
Spiritual Teacher. Healer Facilitator. Manifestation Coach.
Change can sometimes be scary and challenging, especially if it's a big sudden change. However, change is necessary if we plan to reach our fullest potential and create the life we desire. Below are six steps that anyone can start doing today in order to get started in the right direction of positive growth.
1. Take Accountability For Your Actions
This is a small but crucial step that many people overlook. There is so much power in taking accountability and owning up to your mistakes. Many people do not want to do this because they may think it makes them a failure or a bad person, which is not true. When you take accountability for your actions you are able to learn much faster from your mistakes so you do not have to repeat them over and over again. You are able to recognize the part you played in the situation so you can grow and heal from it. Not taking accountability can drastically delay your growth process.
2. Recognize That You Have a Choice in Everything in Life
What a beautiful gift it is to have choices. You can literally choose what and how you go through situations in life. I have seen such a tremendous change in my life once I recognized that I have the option to choose what I want to do, where I want to go, who I want in my life, and how I want to feel. You can start by simply saying when confronted with a situation “I can choose to feel happy or choose to feel angry.” “I have the choice of going after what I want or the choice of staying stagnant and being afraid.” By doing this you begin to make yourself more aware that you have the ability to consciously choose what you want instead of unconsciously making a decision because you believe you have no other choice.
3. Let Go and Let God
Resistance is another reason why people find themselves stressed, angry and frustrated. Some things are just out of our control and trying to hold on and control something that is not meant for you can cause you to build up a lot of tension. I remember during my time of unemployment it was hard taking care of my children and trying to maintain my bills. I began to feel so stressed and drained that I literally could do nothing else but put it in God’s hands and let Him deal with it; and this actually brought me so much relief and peace. It felt good to let go of that burden and trust in God and He delivered just as He always does.
4. Have Fun and Laugh
It sounds simple enough, but there are a lot of people who take life so seriously. You have to have the balance of knowing when to crack down and get serious and when to just live a little. I laugh all the time; it’s one of my favorite things to do. Even in the toughest situations I tend to make a joke out of something and it’s not to be ignorant but people do not realize how quickly it can bring your stress level down. Laughing is soothing for the soul.
5. Embrace Change
Change can be a very scary thing but beautiful at the same time. Change is inevitable. Times change, people change, the economy changes, it’s all a part of life. The best kind of change is the change in one’s own self. I am enjoying the changes that I am making in my life; it is making me a better woman and mother. I could have chosen to stay the same but I would have been robbing myself of a wonderful transformational experience and an abundantly successful life.
6. Go After Your Dreams
Just think about it, everything we have today was just an idea or a dream in someone’s head. It was because they believed in their dreams and took action on them that we have so many wonderful things today. Do not let anyone tell you that it is impossible or do not think that your ideas are too “out there.” Many people may get caught up in the “how” is everything is going to get done or it’s going to take too long, or waiting to get everything “just right” before taking action on their goals. Truth be told there is no perfect time; the world is not going to stop just so you can have time to get everything in order before pursuing your dreams so you might as well go for it now and trust that with each step everything else will naturally fall into place. I’ll gladly share that it is an amazing feeling to accomplish a goal that you set out to do; even a baby step is still a step.
What are some things that you have done to change your life that you are willing to share? Leave a comment to inspire someone else to make the necessary positive changes in their life.
Spiritual Teacher. Healer Facilitator. Alignment Coach
You spent your whole life working for a job that you hate. You’ve lived paycheck to paycheck.
You’ve taken every opportunity to work overtime, just to have extra money. You haven’t taken many vacations out of your city, never really been able to see the world, because you couldn’t afford to, and your job wouldn’t allow. You always watched your momma and daddy work a 9-5 and bust their ass to put a roof over your head. You teach your sons and daughters to go to college, to get a good job so that they don’t have to work as hard as you did. Your children never really got to explore, they never saw what it was like to be free, and live free. They were never taught to have their own dream; they were taught to work for someone else’s dream or vision. They modeled after your struggle. They operate out of a space of fear because that’s all they know. See it’s safer if you work hard for someone else’s company, the money is guaranteed and they got good benefits; yeah you may work long hours; you may have to work some holidays, you hate going in to work every day; but at least you have a job. And your momma and daddy are proud of you. That’s all they ever wanted was for you to go to school, get a degree, get a good job, buy a house and have a family. That’s it. The American dream. You are now a success. Not one aspect of that vision belongs to you. But you go with it. It’s sounds good, its safe. You never saw any other way of living; Hell you barely traveled. Not once did you ever say to yourself I want to be a billionaire, I want to change the world, I want to leave a legacy for the next generation, I want to travel all over the world, I want to have exotic pets, I want a couple of houses. I don’t want to work for someone else for the rest of my life, I want to work for myself. How could you? The only thing that was ever put into your head was to play it safe. Your gifts were never nurtured, or even recognized. You never believed that they existed. You say things like "other people are visionaries, not myself, I'm not really creative, I’m pretty average". After a while you believe that and you achieve below your potential. You become exactly what you believe you are; you accumulate exactly what you believe you are worth…average. And that’s how you live your life until it’s time to retire at 65. And now it’s time to prepare for your transition to the other side. And you have left this world passing that same belief system on to the next generation. But, would you believe that you lived your whole life living below average? That the job you worked for 30 years, you were only meant to work temporarily or even worse never even step a foot in. Would you believe that you were meant to make an impact on the world, and your name was meant to be a household name? And because of it you would live abundant. Would you believe that you were considered a creative genius and true visionary? And because of it your family legacy lives forever. Would you believe that you had several cars, and houses, and a whole circle of successful friends that you never even met? Would you believe that you blessed so many people, that there wasn’t enough time in the world to meet them all? If God showed you this entire tale I have presented to you in a dream, would you wake up and live life differently thereafter. Would you do everything in your power to receive His blessing, or would get up and go to work without giving it a second thought. Throughout our lifetime we are given many opportunities to change our course of direction, but it is up to us to take it. Don’t be afraid to dream big, or take a new course of direction from your family. Especially, if you have no desire for the life they live. God gave you many gifts, and a purpose. It’s up to you to follow. And, guess what else? You’ll be provided with everything that you need to get it done, so there’s no need to be afraid. What’s more frightening is missing out on all that could have been yours. Don’t miss out on what God has for you. Take this message as a sign from God, an opportunity to change the course of your direction. Fearlessly.
Author: Angel Aura
Spiritual Teacher. Healer Facilitator. Manifestation Coach.